[-]Why are so many people being so judgemental of Sarah Palin? I hate her views on most things, but I don't care if her daughter's pregnant or if she went to five different colleges. What's the obsession?
9 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]she incites an emotional reaction in me because i think to be a minority (and in powerful jobs, women ARE a minority) you have to be twice as good to go half as far. and when women who ARENT twice as good get those positions, they fail and make others look bad, making it even HARDER for us to do well. i react emotionally to her because i think she's not ready for the job and it will ultimately hurt me, personally, as a woman in a powerful job, when she fulfills the stereotype and fails. i know its not logical, but if you're asking why, that's my reason for irrational feelings about her.
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[-]What do we think about the fact that Palin went to 5 schools in 6 years before finally graduating from college?
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I heard she "attended" Boise... whatever that means. The video of her last night made me think of the movie "Election"
[ Reply | Options ]Geez. Let it go. So tired of this crap. Move on to the issues that matter. If she sucks, they will lose. Simple. We don't have to discuss the gossip ad nauseum.
[ Reply | Options ]I disagree that this is gossip - education and work history are two very important things. Sounds like her educational credentials are not stellar.
[ Reply | Options ]But I have yet to see anyone post anything about her record, info about her governorship, so until that time...it is gossip. Plenty of people can be good leaders and great business people without Ivy League degrees. Bill Gates never even graduated. If he was on a political ticket would you say he was unqualified to be say, mayor of Seattle?
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She does suck. Unfortunately, there are too many stupid people in the country who might vote for her because she is "just like them"
[ Reply | Options ]yes. At some point people have been convinced that a president should aspire to education or to being "elite". Like the presidency is no different in training or temperment or deservedness than being a car salesman or an office worker or any other "normal" middle class blue collar job. It SHOULD be something reserved for the best and brightest !
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ita but honestly, I know some scholarly people who are just plain logic dumb and cant lead their way out of a box. On the contrary, I know some really bright, inspirational people who have achieved a hell of alot with out an ivy degree. Capability should be judged by achievement too.
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[-]DHs uncle is signing the deed over to DH today at 3:00 for his grandmother's house, wants DH to be there (which I don't understand why, DH doesn't have to sign anything - just the uncle, am I correct?) I am so hurt that DH wouldn't insist that I be there as well. This is the beginning of a future together in our new home, he wants me there to apply for an equity loan but not for the transfer of a home, which is only ging in his name BTW. I think his uncle is making him sign something stating that I can never get the house if say we ever divorce...which I am also insulted about.
25 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]that sucks but you need to rise above it! it sounds like his uncle is a real asshole but you need to be very charming and nice to him and all of dh's family. they obviously think you are a gold digger.
[ Reply | Options ]Gold digger??? That's hysterical. His uncle is taking action because his DHs father divorced his mother and his mother took half of the house (uncle gave father money to buy her out), they want to keep the house in the family which I respect but I mean, come on. DH is lying to me in regard to what his uncle is making him sign and that bothers me. Why the secrets? I told DH, "no problem, make sure when you apply for your equity loan that you salary can cover it solely because I am not investing 1 cent into YOUR house!"
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your dh needs to tell you exactly what he is signing. Even if the house is just in dh's name, you are married and it should be considered community property if you acquire it during the marriage, no? If dh and his family are trying to cut you out of the deal, you should not put your credit on the line with a home equity loan. Why would you need a home equity loan if someone is giving you a house, anyhow?
[ Reply | Options ]The house needs major renovations. I feel just as you stated..I am being cut out of the deal, they want to keep the house in the family which I respect. DH is doing this behind my back and he got caught in a lie today when I questioned what he needed to sign? You don't need to be present to have property transferred into your name from someone. I am not putting a penny into it...I want to throw up. DH is angry at me for questioning him!!
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I would say "No thanks" before I would do to my wife what your dh is doing. Sorry, you seem at peace with this and that says a lot for you.
[ Reply | Options ]I am far from at peace, I am sick to my stomach with my hands tied. If I am left in the dark about something what can I do about it?
[ Reply | Options ]You and your husband need to sit down with a good therapist/mediator person to navigate the emotional and financial implications here. Hard to believe that uncle can make some sort of restrictive covenant of he is actually transferring the property ownership to your spouse.
[ Reply | Options ]And that is what is happening, his uncle is stating limitations. He is having my DH sign against me. Meanwhile, his uncle has never been married and has been living with his girlfriend for 20 years who he is leaving his house too. Here I am married to his nephew and have two DC with him. WTF??
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OR: Do you guys have a lawyer you use for family stuff? Talk to him/her. But first off -- ask your husband what his beliefs and feelings are. He may be on board with Uncle Douchey McBagenstein or he may think he has no choice. I can't imagine wanting my wife to be a guest in the house we live in as opposed to a partner.
[ Reply | Options ]I know that he feels like he has no choice because this is the only way that we will EVER be able to own our own home.
[ Reply | Options ]NP: OP and her DH definitely need to have a lawyer look at whatever DH is being asked to sign. If he's agreeing to some sort of restriction to title it could affect your ability to get the home equity loan. And, as one of the ORs points out above, the house will most likely be considered martial property regardless of whose name is on the deed. DH can't waive YOUR rights to martial property - you would have to sign as well. What DH is being asked to sign might be against his own best interests, not just against yours.
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[-]What do you prefer: Friend as b-sitter or someone hired? Had friend b-sit last night and am now completely fed up w/ her. She didn't want us to leave until dd was asleep (teething and a bit cranky) and then texted us during dinner to say she was up and unhappy - basically asking us to come home. She was basically useless and took the fun out of my b-day. Should we start using "real" b-sitters?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]omg, yes. Boundaries are good, and when someone is hired they are on your turf, and they follow your rules. An experienced babysitter will not call you or text you unless it's important, so you can get the hell out of the house for one night.
[ Reply | Options ]OP - Thanks! I always thought i'd feel better w/ a friend there, but you're right, she was a total PITA. AND, between 2 cabs and dinner + a bottle of wine after we got home, I paid her more than I would have paid a sitter and I didn't have one moment to relax all night. Real sitter next time!
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[-]What do we think about the fact that Palin went to 5 schools in 6 years before finally graduating from college?
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I have one daughter and would like to try again for a boy. I am considering gender determination but feel torn. I know a healthy child is what is important...
[ Reply | Options ]I'll sell you my sex selection book, go to craigslist - how to choose the sex of your baby - 4.00
[ Reply | Options ]this could be me soon. Dh wants a boy (typical guy crap!) but ultrasound predicts girl. He says next one maybe will be a boy, then if not, we could have another. I'm like, you want me to do this 3 TIMES!! I think gender determination is smart, and here is my logic. If you are doing disaster mitigation and the cost of mitigation is less than the cost of the unmitigated disaster multiplied by the likihood of the disaster occuring, you should mitigate (there is a 50% chance the unmitigated flood will cause 10k in damage to this home and a 25% chance it will cause 50k in damage, and the cost of mitigation is 2k. ((0.5*$10,000)+(0.25*$50,000))<$2,000; $5,000+$12,500=
[ Reply | Options ]So if you plan to have a whole extra kid if you don't have both genders, then if the cost of gender selection is 10k and the cost to raise an entire extra person is $200,000 or whatever the number is, and you have a 50% chance of that happening (50% of $200,000), then $100,000<$10,000- so you should "mitigate" and do gender selection.
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but I am not torn about the practicality of it. It makes the outcome certain and so eliminates trying again. I am torn because I using genetics. I would have never thought I would be torn about this but I wonder: Am i selfish about wanting what I want and now science makes that possible for me? I mean a healthy child is the only thing that should matter to me. As i write this out I feel more selfish/guilty???
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My BIL desperately wanted a son. After his daughter was born he could talk of nothing else. So, they had a second one and he was a boy. Now the children are 12 and 10. Guess which one is smart and a fabulous athlete and which one is having school trouble and sucks at sports.
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[-]The McCain campaign has told the media that Palin will not be giving any interviews - it will be scripted speeches only.
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]how weak is that. At the same time it is scary and insulting. is she ready to talk to Putin and China ? If so, I think she can talk to Campbell Brown, No ?!
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this- and more http://pol.moveon.org/lte?campaign_id=95&id=13701-71088-I7givcx&t=3
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are you kidding???? that is insane. are you sure? do you mean "no interviews this weekend" or as in for the forseeable future?
[ Reply | Options ]I heard on CNN last night that she has no scheduled appts in which questions could be asked. period.
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